Eight times it might be healthier not to forgive

Eight times it might be healthier not to forgive
There can be situations in which it’s better not to forgive and forget, experts say. (Image: Depositphotos)
The Washington Post
By Susan ShapiroThere’s a “forgiveness industry” of books, coaches, TED Talks and services promoting radical exoneration from every angle. Yet after a decade researching the concept of forgiving for a book on the topic, I found that pardoning people too quickly can often be harmful and self-destructive. That’s especially true when it comes to trauma.“People who don’t forgive are sometimes portrayed as cold, hardhearted or inflexible. But that’s pathologising the person harmed versus the offender who cau...

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