The stress of being an only child when your parents get old

Lori Hanasko has no siblings to help care for her dad, Carl Cardinali, at a personal care home.

Sun, 10 Mar 2024

By Clare Ansberry, with photographs by Stephanie Strasburg When the lives of Lori Hanasko’s parents unravel, so does her own. Her 89-year-old father fell when taking out the rubbish the day after Christmas and broke his hip. He is now in a care home. Weeks later, her 84-year-old mother fell in her bathroom, and remains in the hospital. Hanasko visits both each day after work and takes care of bills and calls to doctors and social workers. She paid for her father’s care by emptying her small savings account. &nb...

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